by Melissa Woody

Created on: July 15, 2009   Last Updated: July 17, 2009

It seems as though in today's society self esteem is at a all time high. I believe that this generation suffers a lot more when it comes to there up bringing and the pressures at school and work to be something they are not. If self esteem in a relationship is not a big problem I don't know what is.

We all struggle to be prettier or more weight conscious. Are bodies are often not what we want them to be. people think they are to skinny or to fat. Its even as far as the size of there breast to the shape of there but. We nit pick at everything. I have even heard some one say they couldn't go out on a date with there boy friend unless there feet were pretty. Feet! Can you believe that? Women are very self conscious. There are a view samples. Women worry about appearance in all sorts of ways. Like there hands have to be manicured, there toes pedicured, there legs and under arms shaved and if they don't have the perfect natural assets there is plastic surgery.

Today anorexia or bulimia is more apparent and more of a problem then ever before. People are even sacrificing there health for there self worth. How could all this not affect a relationship. If you are worried about your looks then you can not give yourself fully to your mate. I mean come on now if you don't view your body the way you want then you can be comfortable naked. Do you think they do not notice the discomfort? What about men who want a real woman? What I mean about that is some men do not what there women altered by cosmetic surgery. Then of course that becomes a problem if you are in a relationship where they do not know yet and then you come home with only one facial expression cause your face is so full of botox. What if you have a permanent smile for a couple hours and they have a tragic mishap and they think you don't have any sympathy. Do you not think that would cause self esteem problem even in the male, and lets admit they have botox also so it could very well be a self esteem problem for them as well.

There is another alarming problem with self esteem in a relationship that is very unhealthy and even dangerous. If you or someone you know is in a relationship were they are physically or mentally abused first of all remember you are special and worth more than that. Call someone, or talk to a friend. Have options for help so that danger doesn't come of the situation. Always remember there is no excuse for abuse of any kind. Get help immediately. I believe that is the biggest most dangerous affects on a relationship.

So in conclusion always remember you are made in Gods image, he doe snot make junk. You are more than your self worth. All people are beautiful in the eyes of God. Can you call God a lier? I know I cannot. So stay strong and positive and remember you control your happiness.

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