by Kat Apf

Created on: July 14, 2009   Last Updated: August 19, 2009

Open marriage goes wrong from the second the idea is put into motion. Both partners might think this is the thing that will save their marriage. They might believe it will put back a missing spark. But the fact of the matter is, that theory and practice are two very different things. In theory, an open marriage might work but put it to practice and it's a whole different ball of wax.

If you delve into thought on this first, chances are this will never be something you would propose to your partner. Think hard about how you'd feel if you partner was sleeping with someone else. It's nice to think you'd just brush it off and if it made them happy it would make you happy but it's just not going to happen.

Humans are jealous. It's just how we operate. If you love someone the thought of them having sex with someone else is probably enough to make you throw up. Of course, in an open marriage it's supposed to be okay. So, everyone will start out saying it won't bother them. But again, weigh theory and practice and you'll see, this won't make anyone happy.

Of course, at first, being with other people will be great fun. That excitement of having a new love interest is thrilling. A new physical partner is always a rosy time. But reality is, your spouse is still there. You aren't free and clear and guilt will eventually consume you.

If you're a religious person, you'll sure end up feeling like you've done the wrong thing. And in the eyes of any religion, you have. Having sex with anyone but your spouse is considered a sin in every religion. So, think hard about your religious convictions and how it will effect your religious life. This will weigh heavily on most people and it's not worth it.

No matter where you got married the ceremony is about committing to your partner. The vows you took did not contain lines about doing it with other people. And if you took those vows seriously, you will not feel good about this choice. It might feel good for a while but eventually, it will haunt you.

All the things you'd feel if your spouse were having an affair are all the things you are going to feel when you enter into an open marriage. The only difference will be is you'll most likely hear about it or even witness some of it. Either way, an open marriage or an affair, you'll still have the same emotions.

Open marriage seems like a thing of the past but certainly people are still venturing into this lifestyle. Think long and hard and then, think longer and harder, before you decide to delve into this area. Save yourself a lot of heartache and emotional pain and just say no immediately to an open marriage. It's never the right choice.

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