by Sarah Howell

Created on: July 14, 2009

Keeping you baby safe around older siblings may sound hard, But there is a very easy solution to the problem. Keep them Involved and trust them around the baby as much as you trust you around the baby. This will one help them to like and love the baby instead of making them jealous and hate the sibling. It will also teach them to better around babies all together and maybe a better parent as well.

A lot of parents make the mistake telling the other child a lot ," Get away from him when you are doing that." or ," No, I will feed him I don't want you to hurt him." There is often this one as well,"No, you can't hold the baby you will drop him." See that doesn't sound like you are giving the older child any reason to like, or not want to hurt, the baby. So doesn't is sound better if you would say, 'UM, yeah you can hold the baby, sit on the couch and ah, put your arm on the armrest and I'll sit with you." WOW! what a big difference that makes, now you are saying, 'yes you can hold the baby but you have to sit here and with mommy.' That same thing works with feeding him, and this whole time you are learn what you other child can and can't do with your new baby. Instead of yelling because the child is doing something near the baby. Tell the child that if he plays the wrong way the he could hurt the baby, And he doesn't want to hurt the baby cause he doesn't like it when he gets hurt so why would he want the baby to.

Not only will talking to your child about the baby like this help keep the relationship between the children better, but it i=will also help the mom and dad's relationship with the older one. It will make him feel special if you give him jobs to do to help with the baby, Keeping other children included when there is a new comer is important to make them feel just as loved as the new baby. That will stop a lot of problems a parent can have with more then one child.

I also think it is important to tell you that baby are stronger then you think. They are made so there bones are harder to break and pain is easily fixed with love and maybe a mommy kiss on the head. I'm not telling you that hurting your baby is okay because of these thing, Because it is not and it's not okay to let other children do things that could hurt the baby. If you find your s elf feeling this way talk to your doctor and see if the is a herb that you could take. (herbs are also healthier for children in smaller doses).

Lets say that your child falls. The way you reach to the fall and care for him after is what makes your child a stronger one or not. for example if they fall down and it doesn't look like they could have gotten hurt maybe scared and they cry a min. see if they will comfort them selves first. This also will help to strength the child just in case later in life the children "play a little rougher"

Love your children it is the best way to raise them right, remember you should love your child as much if not more then yourself. The love that you get in return is worth a thousand bade days. Children really are a true gift and miracle and if you were blessed enough to get one make sure you love it the way it should be.

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