by Adelani Aderemi

Created on: July 14, 2009

Whether one is going to give an honest talk about one's sexual experience is a function of so many factors ranging from one's age, relationship with the target audience, who else might hear through the target audience, the motive behind the talk and the cultural orientation of the people concerned. It is my opinion that, at one time or the other, everyone has been economical with the truth about this age long subject called sex. Adding to that, sex is a difficult thing to talk about in very many cultures and places. Here are the various ways people of different ages tell lies, or may be told lies,about sex:

Infants

As infants parents and older people make us to grow with the view that sex is not to be freely discussed. The sexual organs are given aliases and children are discouraged from touching even their personal organs. All body explorations must be done with the exclusion of the sex organs. Mummy what is this? Mummy tells the child the alias. With practice, the child already knows one of the uses of the organ but no parent will volunteer to tell her if she dare ask for all the uses of the same organ. The sharp brains of children are able to detect the ways many adults dodge their sex-related questions, especially when such adults are edgy and harsh. From this age we begin to know intuitively that this is one sacred area of life where we should mind our businesses lest we be seen as dirty and indecent people. If a five year old sees an advert of contraceptive on television and asks for further details you would be less frank than you know about the subject. Again if such child accidentally sees an intimate scene and asks you for explanation you are more likely to tell them blunt lies.

Adolescents

Nine out of ten adolescents have experienced more than normal intimacy with the opposite sex but hardly would anyone own up to it before their parents or wards except when there are problems. The movies, books, magazines and the Internet are full of sex contents but no adolescent would brazenly show their parents or relations that they enjoy such things. On the other hand, when they discuss with their friends, in attempts to present themselves as champions among mates, most, especially boys would even make up stories of their conquests.

Dating partners

For fear of been jilted, dating partners often hide their past sexual escapades from each other and this is more rampant in societies where chastity is held in very great esteem. As a matter of fact,

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