by Henry Velez

Created on: July 13, 2009

Not to sound immodest but I cannot think of one guy I know who has had as many years of experience with female friends as myself. Over the last 24 years I have had a variety of female friendships under varying conditions . I have had female friends while being married, single and engaged . Some of these female friendships have spanned over fifteen years . What I have learned over these years has come with both heartache and experience. If you find yourself embarking into these waters anew, I believe you would be doing yourself a favor to first take some time now to learn the ground rules and dynamics at work in order to enjoy these friendships to their fullest .

Female friends.. while you are Single

As a single guy, having female friends are an absolute necessity for several good reasons . First of all, it is good in life to have a circle of friends , both male and female of about twenty people with whom you can say you engage in actual conversation with and share some commonality with. Among those twenty or people, two or three will be friends you have build trust with whom you can confide in for honest feedback . In regards to female friends , getting that honest feedback from a woman's perspective can save you much time and difficulty when dealing with the trying times of a relationship with someone else .

Secondly, having at least six or seven female friends means you can have female company without the complexities of actual 'dating' and/or sex that come from an exclusive relationship . It is the guy who has not been out on a date with a woman for the last nine months who is almost guaranteed to think he is in love when some woman shows even the slightest amount of interest in him . Third, having a decent sized circle of friends , again male and female, increases the network of firsthand introductions to other women you may not have otherwise meet.

Getting to know each other..

There is no big mystery as to why some people become friends and others do not . Friendship is based on three things; Commonality, followed by Respect and then sealed with Trust. They must grow in this order. If any of these three aspects is missing the relationship tends to remain as an acquaintance. During the initial commonality phase, two people realize that they share a common interest , a common personality trait or one common desire. It may have been that they work at the same company, enjoy the same hobby, are at the same stage in their life, have the same past experiences

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