by Empress Djata

Created on: July 13, 2009

It could sound cynical, but is it at all possible to detoxify a contaminated relationship once it is infected? Would this not be the cause of relationships ending! There are many reasons for a relationship going wrong, but the bottom line leads to some form of abuse. This may be from physical, emotional, verbal or substance abuse. Although there are those rare times when people just drift apart. It typically is the root of distress within a relationship. Any type of connection can be affected by abuse.

In the beginning a relationship is a beautiful place where an individual meets and learns about the other party. Rainbows are fashioned. Commonalities are the results of those beginning moments. Shared intimacy and, or lusting for the acquaintance is quickly developed. This can be form from a kiss, hug, handshake or introduction. A feeling of affection for the individual is established. It doesn't matter if this is between lovers or friends, even family members can be affected.

After a while a person becomes comfortable with the individual they are in the relationship with, thus exposing hidden appalling traits. Unbeknown to the other partner in the relationship a jackal is revealed and they are left wondering where this person came from. It is unclear to most people exactly when the relationship starts to fail. Most people overlook warning signs in the beginning due to their early infatuation.

Many married individuals seek counseling when they hit this crossroad. Friends tend to continue overlooking issues until the relationship dissolves or has completely eroded. Although there are times when people are able to look in the mirror and analyze the person before them. It is a very difficult task to achieve. For the most part humans want to believe they are without fault in a liaison. Finger pointing is very common between those in a relationship. This is when the relationship has completely headed south.

Observing others relationships around you will make it perfectly clear. How many times have you seen a person point something out to another person and the other person says, "well you did such and such..."? Or how many times have you let something a friend or loved one do go? Many times we let things build up until we can no longer stand the issue. There is a book by Jones and Schechter called "When love goes wrong", which would be helpful to anyone in a relationship with others to read. The methods and theories could easily be applied to any relationship.

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