by Helena Stone

Created on: July 11, 2009   Last Updated: July 12, 2009

So many relationships end and solid friendships begin and stay longer and sometimes stronger, it all depends on the people. Relationships are harder to maintain because of the pressures of getting it right and the expectations people put on each other. Is it easy to stay friends after a relationship? Yes I do feel it can happen. For myself I really do not do good in relationships because of the type of people I pick or sometimes pick me. I come a long line of family non lifetime commitments, I cant stay with them emotionally in a loving, lasting way but I do keep friends with ex boyfriends longer because the pressure is released.

After my first marriage, marring in my teens, I had a very hard time trusting that love can last forever. It is because of the changes in my relationships. They either get to jealous over nothing, get bored of me, or just that we forced our selves and convinced our selves that relationships mean more than long lasting friendships. For example in my life I have had one certain relationship like that. I started a deep, meaningful relationship with a man that I loved with all my heart and soul.

I waited a sufficient amount of time to know whether it was soon after my divorce. I was in my mid twenties and I felt this is it. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. During my relationship, I found myself expecting too much from him like loyalty, trust, and other relationship keepers.Sometime after the trust slipped away and fights began, and worst of all the expectations of truly "happy ever after" seemed to fade., we sat down and he told me he cared about me but he wanted to break up and just be friends 11 mo., 16 days later I felt also it was time, but was I willing to just be friends. Yes we stayed friends. I lost track of him for many years, 18 to be exact. But I really wanted him to know I still cared. I tracked him down.

I wrote a letter to an address I found on the Internet and wrote him back, gave him my address, phone number and hoped for the best. Valentines day 09 I got a call. We got together and are still good friends, spend time together when we can and talk long distance and email every chance I get. I even spent his birthday with him after 18 years and it was so relaxed and fun. So it can happen in many cases just like mine. I plan on continuing my friendship with him for as long as I can. I lost him once because of different paths, but we vowed that we wont lose each other again in our lifetimes.

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