by Ferg Fontaine

Created on: July 11, 2009

To blame ones sexual orientation on the behavior of men is absurd; to say the least. Blaming others for our choices in life is nothing less than cowardly and shouldn't be considered or adhered to. Most of societies issues today come from individuals who lack the God given response of responsibility. Regardless of the behavior of another sex, race, social status or upbringing, there comes a time that individuals can choose the direction of their life; in all things.

Grant it that there are individuals that feel the need to blame their sexual orientation on a childhood horror such as molestation or incest; these cases are by no means to be dismissed as viable reasons for confusion with ones sexual connotation. However, if the individual comes to a crossroads in their life, one in which they realize that serious boundaries have been crossed while they were not yet old enough to fend for themselves, it is safe to say that counseling and advice needs to be sought. As an adult, you can realize or identify that things need to be cleared up in your mind, in your heart and in your plumb-line. I believe that while dealing with the hard issues of life and the difficult circumstances of childhood that one would recognize their need to have a clear perspective. Seeking a clear perspective can be done most often in searching for truth through scriptures found in the Bible. God's word never condemns, never tears down an individual. Just leaves them realizing their need for Him in their life, if changes need to be made He gently makes them without the judgment and shame that the world heaps on everyone.

And then there are women that grow up feeling a bit more masculine; maybe even feeling an attraction to the same sex. These individuals certainly cannot blame their choices on mens attitudes. Often these women will try dating men and feel as though there are never physical attractions when journeying through their life search. I have seen women that have chosen lesbianism and I've seen women that feel they had no choice but it was who they are. I cannot answer for those feelings and the overwhelming bent that they have found themselves stuck with in life...I know many wince at the word stuck but rarely have I met an individual that is gay that doesn't say life would be much easier if they were not. If their choices were easier in life they would not have to deal with the social stigma, rejection from family, friends and loved ones and societies unwillingness to embrace them as an individual that have a heart and a need to be loved.

I know this brings the subject way off from the simple question of men's attitudes and lesbianism. But the bottom line is that men have little or nothing to do with choices women make when it comes to life partners. Unless of course they have committed a crime on her as a little girl and left her scarred for life. But this individual isn't just an attitude issue of a man, he is a monster and needs a taste of his own medicine.

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