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No. There I said it. Sorry to sound like a complete jerk, but I cannot date someone who is ugly. I only have interest in beautiful things in my life. I couldn't be with someone that I didn't consider beautiful. Though what is beautiful and what is ugly is relative. Let me explain what I consider "ugly".

When I was in high school I was constantly made fun of because of the way that I look. "Ugly" would've probably be one of the nicer things people would say to me, or whisper to their friends a foot away from me, or throw notes to me. To this day I have major self-esteem issues, when I pass by a group of people laughing I can't help but think that their laughing about me. If you're an observant person you'd see my body language change when there are a lot of people around me. These people who made fun of me when I was younger didn't know much about me. I went to the same classes as they did, they knew my first and last name but that was about it. They didn't care who I was as long as they were having a good time at my expense, that's what I call ugly.

People who call you their friends but laugh along the class while you're being teased are ugly. People who let you down just so they can get attention from the rest of the class are ugly. Insecure little brats who take their insecurity on others are ugly. I could never be with a person like that.

I don't see ugliness in a physical sense anymore because I've experienced it psychologically for years. Being bullied has humbled me. I believe everyone needs a little humbling sometimes just so they know what it feels like.

About a school year later I meet someone who showed me real beauty. I had nobody to talk to about my problem and when I did, nobody understood. He approached me and was interested to get to know me. It seemed strange because I didn't think anybody was like that. He made me comfortable. He listened to me and finally, someone who took me seriously and stopped. Physically speaking he looked scary to me. He looked like the type of guy who would beat you up if you looked at him the wrong way. But talking to him was like having a close family member going to school with you, I felt safe.

I don't believe anyone dating a person really considers them as ugly. They have to see the beauty that's within them to make it work.

Not many people share my particular view but, I could never date a person which that I consider ugly.

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