Sometimes we all need some insider tips on how to communicate with the opposite sex. Recently, one of my friends has talked about his past woman problems, all of which were spurred by his confusion of how to talk to women. Yes, we women are complicating, but here are some tips for talking to us.
1.) Be honest.
As tempting as it is, do not lie. Some girls may have a thing for doctors, but if you are not one, we will probably find out about it at some point. If you actually drive a Geo Metro, but you say you have a motorcycle, we will catch on. We are complicated, not stupid. If the woman is not impressed by the Geo, bank on your actual strengths.
2.) Know the difference between clingy and caring.
Women want caring men, but clingy is bad. Do not call every five minutes after just one date. Do not throw the love word around until you absolutely mean it. Let the woman have space. If she is interested, she will let you know.
3.) Talk about what you know.
Do not over-talk your ability. Being smart is an asset, but being wrong could be detrimental. If she brings up something you know nothing about, let her tell you about it. Pretending to know will only end badly.
4.) Remember she is a woman.
Unless she lets you know she loves sports, do not go on and on about last night's game. Too often when men try to communicate with women, they talk to them like one of the guys. Disgusting anecdotes, sports talk, and car talk can wait for guy's night. When you are with her, try to talk about similar interests. If it all works out, you can bring out the gross guy side later on, slowly, of course.
5.) Be nice.
I had a professor once who said she had a cure for sexual violence. She said if we told adolescent boys sex will happen, but they must be nice. Do not go into a date thinking about what bed you will be in later. Be nice to the woman and let the chips fall where they may. You may be happier with where they land.
6.) Complement her, but do not dote.
Women want to feel pretty. Women spend hours getting ready for dates and a complement here and there will make her feel like those hours were not wasted. However, when communicating with women, do not go overboard. She will notice. She may laugh it off, but if you complement too much, she will only find you creepy. No one takes to the creeper home to Mama.
7.) Listen.
I realize this sounds cheesy and over-simplified, but it will work. Good communication involves someone talking while the other one listens. Listen to what she is talking about and find something to use for your response. It is simple, but effective.
Communication is tricky. One wrong word could be a huge turnoff, but you have to try. Do not put up a false front: simply be yourself. If the woman is interested, your future relationship will be set on a strong foundation. If she does not like it, she would not have liked you in the long run. Excruciatingly bad relationship side-stepped.