by A. Sophist

Created on: July 05, 2009   Last Updated: September 12, 2009

Does love end? Rather, Can love end? Can the feelings which at one point brought us nothing but joy, simply cease to exist?

Given enough time, every relationship will face its own trials and tribulations. Eventually we all grow to question what it is we really desire. Not just in a relationship, but within ourselves as well. We begin to question our motives. We wonder if the decisions we've made over the years, have led us in the direction we originally wanted to go. Sometimes we just realize that the goals we once thought were right, no longer inspire us to continue.

When a relationship reaches that point (which it must in order to endure), both parties must ask themselves, "Is THIS what I really want?"

That question in itself is terrifying. It forces us to examine every aspect of our lives. Our motives, our good intentions, our great aspirations, suddenly come under question - we are then forced once again, into discovering who we are.

It's very difficult to reach this point in life, especially since the road to self discovery is a road which must be traveled alone. How do we make the transition from being happily in love to once again being alone and unsure of what the future holds?

If the love was real then those feelings cannot just disappear. That may sound comforting in theory, but it makes the decision process all the more difficult. If self discovery must happen when we are alone, are we supposed to let go of all that we once cherished in order to do so?

Breaking up is straightforward when anger is involved. It is so much easier to hate someone and move forward than it is if love is still prevalent. If we can still see even the smallest piece of what we initially fell in love with, we can never fully let go. So what do we do?

Do we try to move forward and hope those feelings fade in time; knowing well that doing so puts all future relationships in jeopardy or is it better to simply run away and severe all ties with whom we still have feelings for?

We must know that we can take care of ourselves without the aid of another. The question that still remains is how do we move forward without sabotaging ourselves with feelings of false hope? There are so many answers to this question; none of which are the ones we want to hear. We have to keep moving forward yet stay realistic with our desires.

In order for love to exist, it must be mutual between both parties. It must be brave enough to conquer the insecurities and strong enough to forgive the faults. Without

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