by Susan Quilty

Created on: July 05, 2009   Last Updated: July 06, 2009

Diversity makes the world an interesting place. However, differing thoughts often lead to arguments or spirited debates. When you find yourself in an argument, there are many strategies you can use to keep a level head and make the stronger points that will ultimately win your case.

1. Remain calm.

Tempers often flare during arguments, but anger will only sidetrack you from your purpose. When feeling defensive, people often lose their cool and go on the offense with hurtful comments that will in no way help prove their point.

2. Understand your intentions.

What does it mean to win this argument? Do you want to make the other person understand your point of view? Change their own point of view? Or find a compromise to your conflict? Having a clear understanding of your goal will help you stay focused during the discussion.

3. Separate your emotions and logical reasoning.

There is a vast difference between an impassioned argument and an emotional rant. Yet during an argument, it can be surprisingly easy to slip into an emotional tirade. Your emotions make you passionate about the subject, but your logical reasoning is what shapes those emotions into a coherent argument.

4. Be present in the moment.

When arguing, your mind is rapidly sifting through an immense amount of information. It simultaneously looks through your memory for past experiences, formulates a strategy, and listens to the other person's arguments. All of this noise can be distracting. Learn to focus on the present and trust that your mind will do its job.

5. Listen.

Listening is more than hearing the words that are spoken. If you are focusing on what you will say next, you are not really listening to what the other person is saying. You may miss vital clues that would help you win your point. Focus on listening and it will be easier for your mind to find the most appropriate responses.

6. Be aware of faulty logic.

Many people use faulty logic in arguments. If you have never studied logic, it may be difficult to pinpoint the flaw in their reasoning. Understanding false premise, circular reasoning, false analogies, and other forms of faulty logic will help you form stronger arguments and point out your opponent's flawed logic.

7. Think before you speak.

Remember the fable of the tortoise and the hare. In an argument, slow and steady often wins the race. Blurting out every thought can get you in trouble, particularly when you speak in anger. An argument may sound perfect to you, but

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