by Alexander Wolf Hosking

Created on: July 03, 2009   Last Updated: July 04, 2009

Awaking, early hours of the morning, I roll over, reach my arm across and sensuously stroke her back. A warm feeling envelops my whole body, beginning in the pit of my stomach and rushing, head to toe. Smiling, I realise, this is the happiest I have ever been.

Hazily, drifting in and out of sleep, all my worries seem to have evaporated. I know this woman is MY true love, MY soul mate, the love of MY life. She doesn't belong to any other man, and that gives me a sense of security like no other.

Its taken time to achieve this rigid love, and its not been an easy path to walk. Obstacles at every turn in the road, that, once overcome have only made us stronger. Foundations built on trust, solid to the core. All this stems from the fact that we are in a monogamous relationship.

If anyone else had been involved in this partnership, if the grip of trust had been broken, I would not be laying here with this powerful feeling flowing through me now. I would be unsettled, worry would surround me with every waking moment. When away from her my head would do somersaults, a barrage of disturbing and disconcerting thoughts would filter through to my mind, it is only natural.

I know my girl feels the same way that I do and, if I was willing to cheat, to defile our relationship, what would stop her from doing the same? It takes a weak person to cheat, and weak links break chains.

To willingly and knowingly sleep with another person, even if it is a mutual decision between partners i.e. swinging, it is wrong. Sex is the most intimate and passionate experience in life, to want another person involved complicates this pure and simple act. Knowing that your life partner would like to open up your most cherished moments for others to share can only create an empty space. A wonder that you are not enough. I believe it would be the beginning of the end.

Life feels so much more complete when you can find that one person to spend yours with. I would say its like a weight being lifted, but it is more like a calmness, receding and encapsulating two people, bringing them together forever. Allowing you to feed off each others gains and accomplishments, soothe each others pains, comfort each others insecurities.

Monogamy is far from a death sentence, it is what makes our lives whole. It brings security, trust and love. If there is another life after this one I know that because I have loved no other, it will be spent with my love, the woman of my dreams. My Sonia.

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