by Roberta Colby

Created on: July 03, 2009   Last Updated: July 06, 2009

Small or large group of friends? As a teenager, I would most definitely pick a large group. But then, being a teenager, the more friends you have the more popular you think you are. I am noway anywhere near popular. I don't have a clique. I just have friends. I have a few BEST friends, and a few friends that seem to just be there. But I no doubt care about every single one of them. The larger the group the more choices you have to hang out with. So you're not doing the same thing every weekend. Say one friend wanted to go to the movie, and another wanted to go chill at the mall, who would you chose? Do you go by who you've known the longest, or by what kind of friend they are? Or, do you go by who you think is the coolest, or who you think will help you meet guys/girls whichever your preference?

The more options you have the less chance you're going to be stuck doing the same thing over and over again. Just because you have one friend that you tell everything to, you trust them more then you do your other friends, doesn't mean you can only hang out with that friend. You should leave options open. Friends are going to be changing. Always! No matter how old, young, mature, immature, your friends are going to change.

Maybe one day they liked the same thing you did, then a week later they think its stupid. If you have a small group of friends the more likely your going to start feeling alone, because maybe no one will like what you like. The larger the group the more chances you have of hanging out with someone with the same interests as you, and you don't have to go out and meet new friends, or do something alone. I'm contradicting my self a little bit. I said you don't have to go out and meet new friends in a larger group, because you have a better chance of someone in your group liking the same thing you do, that doesn't mean that you can't go out and meet a new friend if you don't want to do something with your other friends, you just don't have to.

In a smaller group, you have a harder chance at finding and connecting with someone. I also prefer hanging out with guys then girls. And thats not just because I'm a girl. I feel more comfortable around guys, because they're easier to get along with and they don't have as much drama. If you're in a tiny group of friends, how do you know that rumors won't be started if there's more guys then girls, or vice versa. I'm not a big fan on rumors, and they don't matter to me, but I know that most of my friends wouldn't like it if we were hanging out with like a group like this: two girls and like eight guys, that would start rumors of things that could ruin the best reputation. Even if you know whats going on the group. I think the smaller the group the more likely rumors are going to be started about them.

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