by Melissa Mckinley

Created on: July 02, 2009   Last Updated: July 07, 2009

I would not classify myself as a "feminist". I still enjoy gentlemen opening doors for me, and the occassional "hey baby, what's your sign" from the construction sight, can give a girl a boost every now and then. A feminist, is an independent prude, who probable hasn't been laid in months, and is trying to justify her existence, by stating...I don't need a man, I can do it all, I can work, provide, nurture, and still maintain a very happy and fullfilling life....bullcorn!

A feminist, is a radical way of thinking, they are in a word...man haters. I am a very independent woman, and I am also a single mother, but I would be lying if I said that it didn't present some major challenges, mainly, dishes and laundry. After slaving away at work being the "man", I want to come home, and put my feet up, and turn on the tube....I don't want to do the dishes, do the laundry, do the homework, pay the bills, cook the dinner, ...hell, I'd like to have a wife!

The bottom line is there is a design and a model that has been laid out, that works, it's called, a two party household... one who provides, and one who nurtures....whether it's the man at home, and the wife at work, or the wife at home and the man at work....the bottom line is...it definitly takes two, to maintain a healthy, mental state for all involved, especially the kids.

For all you "super women, feminists " out there....fess up; you are tired, stressed out to the max, and it's just way too much to take on. No one is saying that it can't be done, but not without some dire consequences. Someone in the equation will suffer. Most likely you will die of shear exhaustion, but the kids will suffer the most because in my case, my daughter will be confused as to what her role as a woman is....let's just hope she doesn't pee standing up.

Being an independent woman is great, but it hardens you, toughens you up, and you in a sense, become the man. You forget to be soft, loving and gentle, you forget how to make a man feel needed, because the reality is you don't need him financially, but what about emotionally?

What about a little loving every now and then to remind you that you are not just a "mommy", that you are still a woman, and that you still have needs. I do feel that feminism negatively affects the family and let's get one thing straight; women are still old fashioned, but they work because they have to. My daughter would love for me to be home all the time, baking cookies, and sewing her clothes, but that is just not the world we live in anymore.

Some women like myself, do it myself because I refuse to settle for just any warm body. Feminists, do it themselves, because they are bitter, and really don't need a man financially or emotionally. Feminists are anti man, I am just anti loser....there is a difference.

So to sum it up, even though I , as a single mom, am part of the problem, I do believe that children thrive in the right environment; when a woman is the nurturer, and care giver, and the man is the provider. In closing, to all you feminists out there, relax and don't hate the players; 'hate the game'.

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