by Susan Elizabeth Wiggins

Created on: July 02, 2009

"When our eyes met it was, love at first sight." she sighed.

How many times have you watched this scenario in a movie, on television or maybe read it in a book? ' That statement is a prime example of the Eros love style.

In 1973, author John Lee, introduced us to a different way of looking at relationships in his book, "The Colors of Love." Lee explains, there are three primary styles of love, just as there are three primary colors. He uses the standard primary color wheel to help us understand his theory. As you probably know, when two colors are mixed together, a third color is created. An example of this is, red+yellow= orange, or, blue + yellow= green.

Lee's, theory presents the primary love styles as-

1-Eros= Loving an Ideal Person

2-Ludos= Love as a Game

3-Storge= Love as a Friendship

When any two of the above types of lovers are combined, they create a whole new category, resulting in these secondary love styles. (secondary is written in all caps)

1-MANIA .... = ...(Eros+Ludos)= Obsessive Love (think- Fatal Attraction)

2-PRAGMA..=... (Ludos+Storge)= Realistic and practical love

3-AGAPE.....=.... (Eros+Storge) = Selfless love

Have you ever been involved with a person who was wrong for you? Your friends and family see it and you know without a doubt this relationship doesn't have much of a chance. If you are an Eros lover, you would feel as if you should throw caution to the wind, because there is such a strong chemical attraction to this person. In other words, with an Eros lover, it's all about the sex, but it is not without romance or passion.

As I am writing this, I am reminded of Charlie Sheen's character, on the sitcom, Two and a Half Men, and his never ending parade of pretty ladies staying for a sleep over.

Eros style lovers are well represented by motion picture industry. A few titles are Titanic, Pretty Woman, and Twilight.

Web site, Psychology.Suite101.com, sums up Eros lovers quite well, here, "Eros lovers tend to emphasize romantic relationships, physical beauty, sexual desire, and physical attraction. Relationships based on Eros love tend to fizzle quickly, because these types of lovers can't maintain this high level of passion. An Eros lover's approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves an intense focus on the emotional aspects of love."

People who are not Eros lovers tend to see them as unrealistic, hopeless romantics, who are trapped in a fantasy. Considering the word "Erotic" is derived from Eros, I am quite confident these lovers are, indeed, at times involved in fantasy, sometimes trapped, sometimes not. It depends on whatever the mood calls for.

If you would like to see what your love style is, follow the link below and take the quiz.

http://activitypit.ning.com/forum/topics/fun-quiz-wh at-is-your-love

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