by Daniel Jones

Created on: February 05, 2007   Last Updated: March 01, 2012

Flirt Signals

Most people make their mind up about others when they first meet. They may not be aware of exactly what opinion they have made about a person (like the Chantelle and Preston relationship in UK Celebrity Big Brother 2006). Often people that are attracted to each other are likely to know at an unconscious level on first meeting. It could be a sexual attraction or it could be a love for another. It could also be a beginning to a long-term friendship.

One of the earliest signs to look out for is subtle glances and subtle touching. Also people that appear to be avoiding talking to each other but that seem to at the same time 'play-fight' or jokingly wind each other up. In most cases people initially are unsure about whether their feelings will be reciprocated. They will try to find out normally by testing the waters and hoping the other person will be the one that approaches them.

In the Big Brother house it is normally easier to tell that two people like each other because they have cameras all around them so if one of them appears to drift off into their own little world gazing over at the other one normally a camera somewhere will notice. This gazing at another person is a common sign of attraction.

Often people will do this subtly by perhaps sitting some distance away, or glancing over a book or a cup of tea, etc. Normally when this happens what is going on for that person is that they will be talking to themselves about that person, perhaps about how they can approach the person, whether they should approach the person, will they be rejected (especially on live TV!)?

There are many flirt signals to look out for, more than I will mention here. One of the reasons for this is because they may be too subtle to  notice easily on TV.

Flirt signals the women are likely to give off:

Touching, and playing with their hair.
Turning their head slightly away from the person they are attracted to.
Giving secret glances, often just to see if the person is looking at them.
Licking lips or subtly biting the bottom lip.
Doing more for that person than for others (normally trying to do this in a subtle, non-obvious way, like offering to make that person a cup of tea (when they are the only one around) and using the excuse that they were making one anyway)
Sitting at a 45 - 90 degree angle (approx, or off to the side) to the person they like (not opposite them and not beside them, until confidence builds up that any advances may be reciprocated. Sitting

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