How to encourage your adult children to be your friends? Well, this will start when they are yet young kids. Parents should start to make friends with their kids when they are yet young. When parents deal harshly with their kids, they can not expect to develop good friendship with them much more when they become adult. This is the truth. When parents started to plant negative feelings to the kids when they are young. they will have a hard time dealing with their kids much more when they become adults. The best thing to do is Start to make friends with your kids when they are yet young and it will not be a problem to deal with them when they become adults because they your friends.

Here are some ways on how to make friends with your kids start it in their early age and your friendship will blossom when they are already adults. Time will not change this when you start at an early age.

Avoid scolding them every time they made mistakes. There are many parents who can not control their temper when kids made mistakes. This doesn't do good to the child. The best thing to do is to talk to them in a calm manner and tell them what they do is wrong and there must be a consequence of every wrong done. But don;t yell or scold much more if they are in front of their friends. They will be embarrassed and it will make them rebellious instead of being good. Don't scold the kids in Public. This is the most common mistake of parents. You can not make friends with your children if you don't respect their feelings in front of their friends.

Avoid Blaming. Be understanding in any situation they are in, and be ready to give advice instead of blaming them for what happened. If parents have an open ears to listen and give advice instead of blaming? the kids are confident to open up their problems and consider their parents as their best friends whom they can count on,someone they can confide when problem comes. But if the parents blame them? they will never share their problems because they are scared of their parent's reactions.

Parents should always plan a get together activities with their children. This is very important to create bonding. The time spent with them is treasured by the kids and they will really love to be with their parents often. It will create healthy relationship for parents and children to spend time together, eating, laughing , watch movies and have fun.

Be a supportive parents. when something goes wrong with the children, be the first to offer help, give advice and support them in any way. Parents who have much love and concern for their children are most likely considered the best of friends with their children.

Above all, treat the adult children like adults. Don't treat them like a kid where you just easily correct them or giving them sermon and giving them commands of what they must do in front of many people specially with their friends. Act like they are your friends/ Don't let them feel that you are in higher authority and your word is their command which make them tremble and follow your order all the time. Be a friend to them and they will do the same.

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