"Oops! Didn't see you docked there." No surprise, she has now dropped anchor and begins to check your boat for barnacles or needed repairs. It seems as if she truly cannot help herself. Could it be possible, this mom is bored?

The thing which surprises many couples is when they learn, their mother interferes in their marriage because they have invited her to. The accused offspring will usually begin to ague against this theory once informed that they had a hand in Mom's worrisome behavior. Ask your meddling mom how she knew, about a particular problem in a certain area of your marriage. She will probably reveal, it was you who mentioned it on the phone one day. Most likely, it was after a little spat you had with your spouse. You felt the need to go to the place you have always felt loved, protected, and comforted. It's understandable.

However, later that night after you and your loved one have worked through your problems, had make-up sex, and are sleeping soundly; across town, Mom is in her own bed and is still worried, and wide awake. Just as all mothers throughout the animal kingdom, Mom feels the natural urge to protect her cub; she frets, and tries to think of how she can help. She has no idea everything with you is fine now, because you only call her when you need something.You forget to give her a quick call to ease her mind and let her know the disagreement has been resolved.

One year from now, after you have long forgotten, dumping your problems on your mother and wondering why she's not really fond of your mate; the unsavory traits you acknowledged to your mother are quite fresh in her mind. Your mother will not have forgotten the complaints and shortcomings you revealed about your spouse.

It is a wonderful thing to call Mom to say, "I love you" and have a chat. But don't run to her to vent all your little disagreements, unless you want her input.

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