When it comes to interference in a couple's marriage mothers are pros. Naturally, the maternal meddlers, each have their own reasons. When asked "why?" most moms, claimed they interfere, either out of love or necessity. When asked to clarify this answer, one mother's reply was, "All I want in this life is for my child to be happy." Still, another answers, "if I don't intervene, my kid will make a mess of her life." This mom honestly believes this is true. From her view, her offspring would greatly benefit from the expert guidance of an older, wiser, and more experienced hand.

Maybe Mom has made great sacrifices throughout her years of motherhood in order to indulge her little one. When the same little one (now big) has had a fairytale-like existence her whole life, Mom becomes fearful that her adult child can't handle the truth of the real world. She realizes she has overindulged her child, and now feels it necessary to spend the rest of her years being a barrier to cushion her delicate flower from the harsh elements of reality.

On the surface, moms who meddle, have their child's happiness, and best interest at heart. I'll try to explain why even the best moms might meddle, from time to time. For some women, once becoming a mother, her child will always be the precious little thing, which played around her knees, needed her kisses on boo-boos, and help with tying his shoes. In her mind, her child is so helpless; he couldn't possibly be in a successful marriage without Mommy's help.

Some mothers seem to be blinded to the reality that little Jon-Jon is now 6'1, weighs 210 pounds, ties his own shoes, and would much rather be called anything, other than Little Jon-Jon. This mother considers her motherhood as, the "glory days" and is apprehensive about advancing to the here and now. A reasonable guess would be; this mom meddles because she still wants to feel needed. With some mothers it would appear, she just can't help herself.

After the most recent family fiasco, Mom has seen the error of her ways. She has made her pleas and promises of reformation.

For a while, she stays true to her word and fades into the sunset. The married couple enjoys their peaceful existence but soon begin to wonder, where could Mom be? No need to worry, Mom has been out and about, doing her own thing, riding the waves on her little boat, the S.S. Interloper. She has been drifting around until one day she drifts out into the ocean, otherwise known as, 'Your Business.'

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