by Keliegh Dyche

Created on: June 30, 2009

What is forgiveness? If you look in the dictionary it will tell you it is the act of pardoning somebody for a mistake or wrong doing, to forgive offences readily and easily. Easier said than done, when someone has hurt you all you want to do is feel anger towards that person. How could they have done that, making you feel so upset and offended, all you want to do is shout, scream and cry. How could you? What gave them the right? Why should you be the one left feeling how you do? You do not want to forgive, all you feel like doing is holding on to this pain so no one can do it to you again. Letting go of this anger and hurt towards them feels like you are accepting what that person has done to you.

Letting go of this anger and pain means you can move on, finding inner peace. Holding on to it will always hold you back leaving a bitterness within you, not letting your true beauty shine through as you will have those unpleasant feelings held so close to you. You do not need this pain within your life, it does not help you in anyway shape or form except reminds you of what has happened.

You may not be able to forgive straight away after a hurtful event has occurred as it is your right as a human being to feel some sort of hurt and anger towards them. The key is knowing when the right time is within yourself to let go of this pain, the only accomplishment pain has is holding you back from moving on and beginning a new chapter in your life. Letting go may be a lengthy process, you will be able to do this if you allow yourself time. You do not need to have these feelings holding you back especially when it is not your own doing. Forgiveness can be such a powerful tool allowing yourself to be healed from within.

Allowing yourself to forgive does not mean you have accepted what has happened, it means you are accepting and owning your own feeling by being true to yourself and letting go of this hurt. Not allowing these feelings to rule your life. Allowing yourself to feel free from any anger which you previously had. Allowing yourself to heal that part of your life. Allowing yourself to become complete once again. These feelings you once had towards this person or situation have made you stronger. Letting go of these feelings however hard will allow you to be your true self once again. Forgiveness will bring peace back into your life allowing you to feel whole once again.

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