by Tammy Hammock

Created on: June 30, 2009

Relationship malfunction! Relationships get into trouble when they stop meeting most of the needs and expectations of their members. When we discover that we are not being loved in the way we expected, it tends to get our knickers in an uproar. We may then drop subtle hints to our partner, suggesting that they come to their senses and do the right thing by giving us what we want. If they fail to become enlightened by our gentle encouragements, we often resort to more direct measures: The power struggle!

Such arguments are part and parcel of every relationship which in fact adds some much needed spice and verve to any relationship. If you have nothing to argue about then it's too perfect and in fact it's too dull.

It's good that you are arguing that means you guys are still passionate about each other. But just don't let things blow out of proportion. If you guys are having excessive arguments that Clearly suggests both of you are intractable in your respective opinions.

Both of you parties need to compromise with each other. And if the other person is truly in love then he or she will definitely come to realize the sacrifices the other person is making to accommodate his or her wishes...... I will suggest you instead of letting things drift be proactive and take the first step and you will not regret it. Stepping out of an argument is tough, least of all because both of you are stubborn people; hence it can lead to a fight escalating, which is the worst thing.

I do think that stepping out is so useful and really does allow you to cool down and think clearly, bite the bullet and often diffuse the situation, it's easier said then done.

New relationships always start out wonderful as we put our best foot forward and then as we get to know each other and get more comfortable with letting our hair down we see more of the true nature of the other person. That's when the real love comes in.

We have to love that person in spite of who they are. We learn to take the bitter with the sweet and sometimes the bitter can be very bad. It sounds to me like you may just be hitting a rough spot and if you can both take some time out to recognize what is going on.

Then too compromise it might get better. Believe me, most of us have been where you are and even in worst places. I would say don't give up too soon or you will run every time there is a conflict.

Think familiarity breeds to contempt many a times in relationship so try bringing in new positive changes

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