by Violet Buckley

Created on: June 29, 2009   Last Updated: July 01, 2009

In our daily interaction with family members, sometimes we find it hard to control our emotions specially in tough situations. I know everyone will agree with this Considering that we and our family members have too much familiarity, We talk to them in a very casual way that sometimes we don't realize we are already hurting them in some ways. There are times that we treat other people with respect than our family members. I am always wondering why most people are like that? It is easy for them to correct or insult family members but they are reserved with others. But anyway, I find these things very common to almost everybody.

Controlling emotions is very hard to do specially with our family members. We can maybe control our emotions when we are with other people, but when we are with family members, we openly share what we feel, how we react to certain things, our family members know better about our attitudes and our ways. They know how to adjust to our tantrums in many ways. They can even read our actions and what we are thinking. This is very true.

But how to control our emotions in everyday family life? Well, trial and error would work.

Always listen before you say something. It is very important to listen first, don't argue immediately. Listen when someone in the family present his/her view on something. Don't interrupt and assume that your opinion is better than theirs. It's hard sometimes to keep quiet when you have something to say but, hold your temper. LISTEN first before sharing your views.

Be considerate. Wait for your turn in any situations you are into. Whether using the bathroom, sharing food, sharing opinions or stories, etc. that involves participation of the family members.This will make a difference in the family's atmosphere if everybody is doing this.

Don't yell, try your very best to keep calm in the most trying situation at home with your family. There are many ways to control this emotion when you feel like yelling. Just stay away from a family member who make you upset to the point that you want to yell. To be out in the scene for a few minutes with help your spirit to calm down and be fine. If possible try to avoid argument or never start one.

Well, most family members will argue in some things but they easily get over it. Differences are easily ironed out. I believe the saying that goes " blood is thicker than water" which means, family members can not really stand to be bitter to each other for a long time. When they have differences, it will easily be patched up. Love will always overcome hatred in the family. No matter how angry we are, love is still there and we still can easily forgive.

Controlling emotions with our family members is not that easy but because of love, we always overcome.

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