by Lisa Lai

Created on: June 29, 2009   Last Updated: July 03, 2009

Text messaging has become a welcome vehicle for communication in the hectic lives of many. But like anything that makes life easier, texting can quickly become a bad thing. Here are a few do's and don'ts to keep in mind if texting is a part of your relationships.

DO text quick short updates if running late, altering plans and tiny bit or for simple questions.

DON'T use texting when you have been drinking, in a bad mood, or have a problem with something. You may regret snarky comments when you are face to face with a person.

DO proof read your text objectively. If you want to make a positive impression on someone who doesn't know you very very well, be careful that you don't give the wrong impression. That is not to say that you must labor over every word but make sure that your texts are clearly understandable. Things like sarcasm and humor don't always translate well.

DON'T text too often. It is hard to set a number to the appropriate amounts of text per day. But a great general rule is if your receiver doesn't respond to your original text, do not send another one. The longer the receiver takes to respond the probability that the persons schedule doesn't permit them to be texting and therefore too many are likely unwelcome.

DO text amusing thoughts or interesting experiences if they are short enough. If something strikes you as funny go ahead and text it if you think the receiver will also be amused. Texting is a great way to broadcast to your friends that you just bumped into a celebrity or that you just noticed your dog looks like George Bush. Just don't do it too often. If you have a sense of humor maybe funny thoughts strike you all day. Use common sense.

DON'T believe that everything you text is top secret. People are social beings and because of this we love to share. If you send a text that brings a smile to someone's face a coworker or friend may press that person to share what they have received. Be sure that anything you text won't humiliate you.

DO be kind when discussing other people in texts. There is enough hatred in the world. Cruel criticisms of those around you is an uncalled for indulgence. Let your texts be positive.

And last but not least DON'T text a break up of any kind. This should go without saying but just in case it bears mentioning. There is still no replacement for face to face communication when discussing serious issues. If you follow common sense and good rules of etiquette, texting can be an added joy to any relationship.

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