by Trish Austin

Created on: June 29, 2009   Last Updated: February 26, 2010

Online dating, for the most part, is a way too meet honest people. Can you trust the honesty of everyone ? No, but you can't trust the honesty of every one you meet in your life. Regardless of how you meet them. Trust always takes time to develop.

I have tried online dating services. Being a divorced mom of two children and living in a neighborhood of young married couples was not conducive to me finding potential dates.

The great thing about online dating was that you got to a read a lot about person before deciding if you are interested in them. There is usually a profile that a person fills out. They add photos. There is a "learning curve" one has to go through to become a successful on line dater. But, any thing new a person tries takes practice. For one, with the profiles you can rule out people who are low on the "trust scale" before you even meet them. For instance, if you see a profile that has little written on it. Stay clear of that person. It shows that they did not want to take the time to write a profile. It also says they are not willing to share information about themselves. From the start this person is not trying to build trust.. So, I wouldn't consider this person as some one I would want to date.

Additionally, you have to approach online dating cautiously. I talked to many people who never spent much time on the phone with a person before they met. That is a big mistake. I always had at least 2-3 phone conversations with a potential date before meeting them. This way I could get to know them a little. First, it helped to rule out people I did not want to meet. You can learn a lot through careful conversation with a person. I never would meet any one who did not want to talk to me on the phone before we met. For me, that was a signal that they might be hiding something. Who knows? But it did not feel right to me, so I would not meet them. The phone conversations helped to build trust. It, also, made the first meeting more comfortable.

When I had a first date, it was always during the day and in a very public place. Then, if there was a second date, we might do something that began during the day that lasted until night time. Or I would meet them for dinner. I did not have them pick me up from my home until the third date. Some times they never picked me up from my house. This was out of convenience for both of us. We might not live close to each other. So, we would pick a spot somewhere in the middle.

In our society, every one's lives are so busy. Also, the place where you work may not be a good place to meet people. When it comes down to it. There are not many options for people to meet each other. Online dating services can be a great way to meet honest people. It just needs to be pursued with common sense.

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