by Peggy Fisher

Created on: June 28, 2009   Last Updated: July 01, 2009

Breaking up is hard to do. This is not just the name of an old song but is very true. To keep yourself sane and functioning a person must allow himself to morn. Like the death of someone you love it is a death of a relationship, be it a long term or short term one. Talking to yourself, your spiritual choice and to others can relieve some of the pain and help you get that smile back.

Doing the things you love to do will help bring back that self esteem. Taking a course on understanding relationships will help you know you are not alone. Going on a week-end trip, shopping going out to eat with a friend will cheer you up for the moment . Even if you fall back into being sad again don't let it rule your life admit that your unhappy but know it is only temporary.

Rushing into a new relationship will not help because you're still carrying around the old garbage from the last one. It could over flow into the next relationship and be very unhealthy and the same mistakes all over again It could get you into a bad pattern for relationships. Feelings have to come out one way or the other. You would want your feelings to come out in a positive way so that you may grow and not be stuck going through life with buried negative feelings.

Remember the times you felt good about yourself and had confidence. You're still that person and even better now because you can teach yourself to handle difficult situations, A negative relationship does not make you a bad person. It can make you a stronger and more helpful person for yourself and others.

Look at yourself in the mirror and talk positive to yourself. Know that you are a worthwhile individual and God made you in his image so you know there a tremendous amount good inside. Write down your talents by importance to you, then accomplish them one at a time. Give yourself little gifts every time you've done a good job.

Never pass up a happy moment laugh and waller in it as long as possible.You will see there will be more and more of them, They will spread like a beautiful bedding plant.

When you get in touch with what happened and why it occurred in the relationship it'll feel like a revelation. A new discovery into yourself. Now you can go into another relationship with more insight , awareness and maturity. You will feel wonderful about yourself and be able to handle and accept the ups and downs of not only relationships, but of life. Remember the relationship you have with yourself is the most important one.

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