by Janay Walker

Created on: June 28, 2009

"The hiking epiphany...I do?"

Donovan had planned a beautiful trip for his girlfriend-Sarah. She was elated! He had planned for them to go hiking at one of the most popular hiking getaways, Little Si Trail. Since, they were both hikers, she was thrilled at the thought of navigating the technical terrain and sharing the unbelievable views of classic Pacific Northwest foliage. What was most, she couldn't get the thought out of her head that this might be the day that Donovan was going to pop the question, "Will you marry me?" She and Donovan had occasionally spoke about marriage.

When they arrived there, they were enjoying the scenery and laughing at one another, tripping over the fallen trees. Then, Donovan grabbed her hand and said, "Sarah, I have to tell you something."

She was so excited, her heart was about to pop out of her chest. Sarah knew the time had come. Donovan palms were sweaty and he had felt as if he'd swallowed hundreds of butterfly's.

"I don't think this...us is going to work. I do care about you. I know we have talked about your past and the things that you have been through. However, when we have disagreements, you give in to fits of anger and become very abusive. I know with your previous relationship you have been through a lot but, I don't think you and I will work. I tried but things haven't changed."

The crazed thing is, Sarah wasn't really attracted to Donovan. But after a fruitless marriage, several meaningless relationships, and desperately wanting to be married, she stayed with Donovan. Sarah realized (before the trip) that marriage to Donovan would be a huge bag of problems. She was just obsessed with the fact of being married.

Some are so hungry to get married because of a strong craving of companionship. They hotfoot into marriage, and feel as though any mate is better than none. Ultimately, this leads to loneliness with a mate because of a vacuum of communication. You know...The nearly running away from one another to avoid uttering a single word.

It is natural to want to get married. Some have their rationalizations for wanting to get married, such as seeking immunity from complex situations.

Many times, single people hear the irksome question (from family and friends), "When are you getting married? You're not getting any younger." This may well be that they are unable to see the advantages and happiness you find in being single.

So, are you among those who-by preference or by circumstance-are single? There is much you can do to make a victory of your singleness. By giving consideration to your foretaste and your conduct, it will not be said that, while you remained single, you were a failure at singleness. Instead, you will find singleness to be a rewarding way of life, with its own opportunities and blessings.

However, the question remains, "Is it likely for others to believe that those who remain single can be happy?"

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