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a chance to be counseled if they have difficulties in adjusting.

Whatever personal reasons for your divorce, do not share information that will embarrass your child or information she is too young to deal with. Do not ask your children to choose sides. Your children love both of you. Remember, your child is not divorcing his parent. Respect each other and your children will continue to respect each of you. Children do not need to see their parents disrespecting each other. This teaches them to be disrespectful to adults in their lives such as teachers at school. However difficult this might be for you toward your spouse, doing so will greatly reduce the chances of your children disobeying you after the divorce.

Remember, your child had every right to expect his parents to remain married throughout his lifetime. He and she will be sad, angry, confused, frightened, and/or withdrawn. Do not tell your child how he should feel about the divorce. Listen to his/her concerns and answer questions without putting down the other parent. A divorce can be a better situation for your child if you handle her fears and uncertainty with honesty and respect. If your child needs counseling, talk to your pastor, youth minister, or family member about regular sessions for child to vent anger and receive assurance that he can survive the changes in his life.

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