by Broken Blade

Created on: June 25, 2009

Singleness, the dreaded s word, this stage in life has a bad stigma to it possibly imposed on it by people who are irrationally afraid of being alone. In their mind, nothing good can come from being single. In fact, being single can only be a bad thing. It is looked down upon by every group of people from religious to street dwellers. Religious often quote the Bible verse that says God blesses the married (paraphrased). But being single isn't necessarily a bad thing, in fact for some people, it can only be a good thing. Of course you won't have that partner to cozy up to whenever you feel like it. But you have to take the bad with the good.

One advantage you can get from being single is no fights, no nagging. You don't have to worry about your partner getting after you about little, even pointless issues. You also don't have to worry about being cheated on. You don't have any sudden break ups to worry about. You only have one standard that you have to live up to when you're single and that's yours. If you fail to live up to your standards, you don't have to worry about fussing at yourself (unless you are that kind of person).

Also being single, if used wisely can actually prepare you for a relationship that's way better than you could've hoped to have if you were always seeing someone. You'll have the time to build yourself up, do some soul searching and figure out what type of person you are. As a result you'll find out who you'd be compatible with. You'll also have more time and space to pursue whatever dreams you may have (that is other than finding the girl or man of your dreams and latching on to that one). You can also actually learn to appreciate yourself. They say if you don't love yourself, it can be hard for others to love you. Also, the ability to be independent can actually draw mates to you. You have no one to answer to if you make a mistake. You can be up late night and not worry about waking anyone up. You can talk to others of the opposite sex and not worry about making your mate jealous. If you had a hard day at work with people constantly picking fights with you, you don't have to worry about going home and putting up with the same mess from your mate. You don't even have to go home when you're single. Plus there is a certain kind of peace that comes with being single that is absent from being married or otherwise.

Sadly, singleness is a highly fear and unappreciated point in one's life. One would actually have to be strong to be single. But the benefits of it make singleness worth at least one day of your life. You'll get used to it, and you'll wonder why you wasted all your days walking on eggshells to avoid upsetting that person you were with.

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