by Barbara FeliceHowarth

Created on: June 24, 2009

For those who enjoyed the television show Seinfeld and watched it often, you will appreciate why I am bringing this subject to topic while writing about this article on breaking the cycle of bad relationships. Seinfeld was a sitcom but often taught life lessons and this article on breaking the cycle is a great example of one of them. George is a character from the show. He always made the wrong choices and kept dating the wrong women. George made a change to see what would happen.

George decided to choose the total opposite of what he chose in the past. It wasn't just for relationships, he chose the opposite from what he ordered in a restaurant to the clothes he wore. He figured if he was not getting anywhere the way he use to do things, he might as well do the opposite to see if his life got any better. Strangely enough this worked. He walked right up to this attractive woman and told her the truth about his life. He said " Hi, I'm George, I live at home with my parents and I don't have a job" By him being honest and not trying to be someone he was not, he got the girl.

For years doctors have told us that we are always looking for our parents in our mates. For some, they will look for the total opposite because of a bad relationship they had with either the mother or father. I find part of this to be true. I use to date men that were older and established for years and they never worked out. I decided to date the total opposite of what attracted me initially and ended up marrying this younger unestablished man. Ten years later and we are still married and happy for the most part. People have this idea of who they want in their head, once that idea is there it is very hard to change. Taking a chance or making a change is very hard to do at first but once you dive in with courage, you will be surprised at what life has to offer.

In my opinion, that Seinfeld episode said a lot and I truly believe that if you continually go after the same type of person time and time again with failure, you will always run in to the same dilemma in every relationship; you are sure to break-up. This bad cycle will not go away until you make a change in your choice. The next time you meet a person who you like as a friend but normally would not consider dating, ask them out for a date. Pick the opposite of your normal taste for a change and see what happens. After all, it can't turn out any worse than it has in the past, right?

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