by Lorelei Cohen

Created on: June 24, 2009   Last Updated: June 26, 2009

You love him but you don't love his jealous nature. You've broken up, but he wants you back and you really do want him back too. So what do you do? How can you make it work again with your jealous ex boyfriend? If you have decided to try one more time to make it work, then there are a few things that you will need to do to help insure that your relationship does not fail a second time.

There is an old saying that says "love conquers all" and it can be proven true in most relationships. If the couple involved are really truly willing to work at saving what they have, then love will find a way to make things right, and jealousy is no exception to this. Jealousy within a relationship usually occurs because one partner is experiencing feelings of insecurity and distrust of the other partner, in essence they are afraid of losing the one that they love, to another person.

A partner who is feeling insecure within his or her relationship will portray a jealous behavior much more often than a partner who feels safe or secure within the relationship. This means that if you really are serious about saving your love, then the very first questions that you need to ask yourself are: Why is he feeling insecure within our relationship; did he suffer from feelings of low self-esteem when we first started dating or has this developed over the course of our relationship; and how can I make him feel more secure in our relationship?

If his low self-esteem concerning your relationship is stemming from his past experiences, then Assertiveness Training, or some other form of joint counseling may work to help him feel more confident in your love. Sometimes just seeing things written out in black and white helps a person see where the difficulties are originating from. You can help by complimenting him on all the many aspects of his person that made you fall in love with him in the first place.

Just as women need to be told that they are beautiful, talented and special, so do men need this form of reassurance too. Don't be afraid to let him know how attractive or talented you think he is. Tell him he is beautiful. Tell him he is sexy. Tease him, and flirt with him, just let him know that you think that he is wonderful. Build his self-esteem within your relationship. Help him to feel safe within your relationship.

Now this is the really tough question to ask yourself, and it really does require an honest answer, "Are you part of the reason for his feeling insecure within your relationship?"

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