by Noka West

Created on: June 24, 2009

Reclaiming self esteem after an abusive relationship.

Reclaiming self esteem after an abusive relationship can be accomplished. You have to remember that all men and women are created equal. Just because one of the partners in the relationship was abusive either mentally, verbally or physically, does not mean that you are that person that they have lead you to believe that you are. Everyone has a choice.

Self esteem all starts when you are a child. If you were abused physically, emotionally or verbally as a child, you have a dysfunction in your beliefs when you are growing into adulthood. Some believe that this dysfunction is normal behavior. There are some people that have chemical imbalances in their bodies that alter their mood swings; some go un-noticed unless brought to a doctor's attention.

Being in an abusive relationship does not give you the right to forget about who you are as a person. You, yourself, are in control of your own life. What you do to move forward is up to you. Remember the person that you were when you were happiest; see if it reveals any information to you as to what you should be doing in your life. Do some deep soul searching.

If you are having trouble overcoming your abusive relationship, seek help. You can contact your local physician and discuss your situation. Not many people want to do this because of fear of embarrassment. Yet, you must make the move to overcome this situation. The doctor can then give recommendations to help you.

If you are ever in a safe-space environment, it is a requirement that you see a psychologist on site. They want to hear what you have encountered in your life. Usually, starting as far back as you can remember through childhood. This way they can assess your current state of mind and beliefs. They are there to help you, do not be afraid.

Taking to note that only fear holds us back; moving forward is not always the easiest thing to do. Just as in the saying life is not easy. It is true that best things in life are not always the easiest to accomplish. Yet, we can learn a lot in life by our experiences, both good and bad. It is up to every individual to read between the lines and take account for their life.

Yes, you can overcome and reclaim your self esteem after an abusive relationship. You hold the key to opening the door. You have to be courageous enough to overcome the fear and embarrassment you might be feeling. Remember, each individual holds the key to their own success.

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