by Jami Wright

Created on: June 23, 2009   Last Updated: August 28, 2009

Are you stuck in a continuous circle of bad relationships and just want to get out? Well if you answered yes to this question you are on the first road to recovery. The first step is to recognize and know you are in this cycle and want to get help. Sounds like an addiction? Unfortunately bad relationship cycles are usually a cause of an addiction or low self worth.

Low self worth is a major cause of addiction so again you are in a constant circle. Self worth/esteem is a picture of how you feel and view yourself. If you are constantly thinking negative of yourself or someone else, is constantly telling you negative things about yourself and you start to believe either one, you are a victim of having low self-esteem. The good news is that you can fix this. You can get a new lease on life. You need to start by being positive, seek help either through self help aids or professional help from a counselor, and STOP believing that you are unworthy.

Addiction is a little harder to break, but possible. Addiction is usually fueled by some deep seated desire or the want to escape reality. In relationships the addiction is generally the desire to fix someone (helping an addicted person) or the desire to be with someone bad. These two are hard to resist.

I have even gone for the bad boy once in a while. But the problem is that those relationships usually end up in flames and leave you sitting on the couch eating bon bons and watching soap operas. If you need help breaking the addiction, there are many counselors trained to help you and also you can gather self help aids. Most of these aids will lead back to your self worth or esteem. I have included some suggestions below to help you kick the habit as well.

Homework assignment

If you look back on all your past relationships, you and you see commonalities; you will definitely find this relationship homework assignment helpful.

This week you are going to do a past relationship self assessment. Ask these questions below and write your answers in your journal.

1. What do my past relationships have in common?

The answer may not be obvious at first. Perception and filters sometimes have a funny way of fooling your mind. For example; my past relationships didn't seem to have anything in common at first. I dated men younger than me, my age and men up to 20 years older than me. They were all different builds in body, they had different hair color and eye color.

At first glance it was not easy to tell my relationship preference (type).

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