by Kimberly Morin

Created on: June 23, 2009

To cheat on somebody you care about and supposedly love is wrong and hurtful, and it breaks all trust in a relationship. The grass always looks greener on the other side, however once a cheater always a cheater. To be cheated on in a relationship breaks your heart and it will take time to mend that aching heart. They say that the number of years you were in a relationship with a person, it takes one month per year to completely go through the healing process. For example if you were in a relationship for five years, it would take approximately 5 months for you to go through the grieving process. If you were in a relationship for twenty years, it would take about twenty months for your heart to mend.

Breakups are never easy in themselves and when cheating is involved you feel terribly betrayed. Although you will lose all trust in that particular relationship, you must never give up hope. People come and go in our lives for a reason and sometimes it may be just for a season. It is all a learning experience to help us grow as a person and to enable us to be able to love and count on ourselves first. There will always be change in life, however we must keep going and believe in the power of love. When we are hurt by someone that we care about, we feel disowned and we sometimes develop low self-esteem. You must understand that when you are betrayed by your partner, it is not a reflection of you. You must realize that this betrayal solely reflects your significant other and it is their loss to lose you in the end.

Nobody said life would be easy, they just said it would be worth it. You must be strong and know that everything happens for a reason and the way it is supposed to. Life can be strange, but we must pick ourselves up and live life to the fullest no matter what obstacles we are faced with. We must learn to love ourselves before we can love again. Some people say it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. I say to each is their own and love is what we make it. We can either look at the positives in the relationship and move on or dwell in the negatives and let the misery win. I say staying positive is the key to a happy heart and a happy heart holds the key to joy and peace forever.

As you learn and grow from this relationship, these are the stepping stones to find love within yourself. Once you love yourself and have confidence within you, you will be able to trust again. You are worth it and people must earn your trust. Have faith in the power of you, for you are a gift to this earth. May you be blessed as your heart guides the way to a world of happiness now and always.

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