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Long distance relationships are difficult. They are, perhaps, one of the most difficult relationships that one can have. But, if both people involved are able to maintain the relationship fairly well, they will reap all the benefits that a long distance relationship can offer.

First, before you embark on a long distance relationship, make sure that you know each other's desires for future plans. For instance, be on the same page on how you view your relationship. If one of you does not want a long distance relationship, or is the least bit unsure or insecure, then a long distance relationship is probably not a good choice to make.

Once you decide that a long distance relationship is right for the both of you, you must examine and establish the guidelines of the relationship itself. To do so, write your desires and expectations on a sheet of paper. Then, both partners should list a few "musts" that should be followed. These are usually basic and common in most relationships, and generally deal with infidelity, financial issues, social outlet issues, etc. Read each sheet of paper aloud, since your words may sound different on paper than through your own voice. Then, put your heads together and try to work out the different guidelines that you should follow, according to the desires and expectations of each person. This way, you are basically ensuring that both people involved have a say in the relationship.

Long distance relationships require a lot of patience. Patience is the key to virtually every relationship, but a long distance one needs it the most. Patience means that you should be forgiving of each other, even if you can't see or talk to each other every day. If you have patience, you will probably have trust in one another and you can make your relationship work.

More importantly, try to feel secure in your relationship. It may be difficult for you to feel that way, since you cannot see your partner every day. You may sometimes have the fear that your partner is with somebody else. But, if you continue to think that way, your fears will come true only because you have not trusted your partner enough. Be loving and understanding with your partner, and communicate well with one another. Don't let insecurity bring your relationship low; it is an unnecessary feeling that, when dissipated, can result in a wonderful relationship.

Long distance relationships that last are wonderful to see. Both partners have weathered the storm, and they can both be assured that the commitment they have to one another is strong.

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