by Judy Thompson

Created on: June 22, 2009   Last Updated: June 23, 2009

A new relationship is a wonderful experience. It can become full of discovery about yourself and opening you up for other opportunities down the road that you would not necessarily take or ever see yourself taking. It could bring more adventure into your life and fulfill a void that you have yearned for, yet you didn't know what you had been yearning for. The new relationship could also teach you certain lessons about patience, as well.

After the first date and you are mutually interested in each other, it is easier to have expectations upon the new relationship. You become excited and wanting the other to communicate with you more, spend more time with each other, and then one might try to take the new relationship that is being built to the next level. However, sometimes other things in the daily lives might keep expectations from happening.

It is up to the person who is having expectations upon another, to make sure that they are set low enough, so that in the end, they are not the one's getting hurt. Also, make sure that your expectations are not of immature impulses or impatience. As we are the ones that tend to hurt ourselves by those expectations upon another and then we want to blame the other for not coming through for us in the end.

In fact, the blame needs to be placed upon us for being impatient or setting the expectations too high. Expectations are good to have for setting goals within the relationship or of being goal oriented, as long as they are set reasonably, but not so much on the other person involved.

For example, expecting the guy to call more. That might be reasonable to a point, but not a necessary expectation either, because one has to keep in mind about the type of career that person has or other circumstances around him. Another example would be like having expectations of meeting his parents. That is very reasonable and more realistic as a goal to be obtained within the relationship.

True love is about unconditional love and unconditional acceptance. Not judgment upon another for whatever reason. When communications grow tough, it doesn't mean this person doesn't want to speak to you or that it is about the relationship, it just means one could very well be under stress due to outer circumstances within their daily lives.

Stress does have a way of making those expectations come crashing down. Stress can, also, set up barriers around one's heart and mind, to where the person becomes distant or cold. This is what most would

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