by Jeanine Gilbert

Created on: June 21, 2009   Last Updated: July 11, 2009

What Not To Say On a First Date

Going on a first date can be a lot of excitement, tension, nervousness, stress, and fear at the same time; it is a wonder that anyone dates with those odds. It is very hard meeting someone for the first time. You may have chatted on the phone, or on the internet, however, meeting them in person is completely different.

On the date you will find out how honest each of you were about your looks, likes, and everything else you may have talked about. The date is the real test! I had a friend who thought she was in love with some guy on the internet, they IM each other daily, and chatted on the phone, when she finally met him, she was amazed of how indifferent she was to everything about him.

Each personality is unique in every way, so there could be many topics that would be best unsaid on a first date. It is okay to be quiet sometimes; you do not have to talk on every silent moment. The best thing is to be you, and let things happen naturally. Give faith a chance and let it take its course, if the date works out that is great, and if it does not, then it was not meant to be.

Here are a few things not to say on a first date:

1. Try and not talk about x boyfriends or girlfriends, it puts a chill into the night.

2. If you have problems at home, keep it them at home. It is too soon to let the cookies out of the bag.

3. Do not talk about other people or put them down, it only puts you down in character.

4. Wardrobe, try to avoid.

5. Money and finances is a topic for couples who have been dating for a while.

6. Do not talk about your health concerns unless he needs to know, like being Diabetic or having allergic reactions to a certain foods or drinks.

7. Focus on Material possessions later down the road, not on the first few dates.

8. If you mention a subject and he vaguely gives you an answer, he may not want to discuss it.

9. If you wonder about something to ask, however, you are hesitate, then wait until you have dated him awhile, or see if he brings it up. Like a scar, or loss of a limb etc.

10. Wait for him to make the first move, if that is what you want. If he does not, then after the date is over, gently give him a peck on the cheek or lips if he is receptive. You do not want to seem too forward.

The whole idea of dating is to have fun, while getting to know your date. To explore their deepest dreams, wishes, interest, and common goals. Dating is like shopping for a new coat, dress, or pair of pants, you take them off the rack or shelve, and examine them front and back, looking for defects and charming flair. Then it is time to try them on. You look into the mirror to see how it fits, to make sure it enhances your look. You want a comfortable fit that makes you feel good about yourself, same as a relationship it has to be a comfortable fit.

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