A place like no other
The classroom is a unique environment as the instructor is charged with developing competencies in a group of people who may or may not want to be there. In today's modern society, there are also expectations as to how that education is administered, and many people expect a definitively relational aspect between teacher and student. Of course, there are boundaries to that relationship and teachers must walk a fine line so that their "connections" with students do not cross certain lines.
Who is the boss?
The challenge lies in the fact that the teacher is still an authority figure, and while a rapport can be built, it is usually difficult for relationship between student and teacher to function like a "normal" friendship. Still, there are ways for both parties to appreciate the contribution and role of the other. Sometimes respect is more effective than simple friendship because it broadens the appreciation of the knowledge that can be offered. Therefore, here are a few thoughts on how to develop a culture of mutual respect in the classroom.
Expectations
Mutual respect often starts with proper expectations. Each teacher must articulate what they expect from the students in terms of behavior and general output. Where teachers struggle is when they are too confrontational at first, or when they take the opposite approach and appear too timid. In addition, students may not respect the teacher that says one thing, but then demonstrates an expectation that is obviously different. Consistency is often the best approach, though the teacher must maintain a certain level of flexibility, depending on the dynamic of the class.
Dialogue
The teacher can also create mutual respect by engaging in ongoing dialogue. Overall, the teacher does have to communicate knowledge, which means that they must sometimes play the role of "sage on the stage." However, they can also make a concerted effort to get to know their students as well as work to find common interests. Again, the teacher has to be careful about trying too hard to be "one of the gang." Despite some commonality in terms of interest, the teacher and students are still in very different phases of life. It is the rare occasion that the students will see the teacher as being someone who is "connected" to their age group.
You watch your phraseology
Related to dialogue is the issue of language and popular culture. Some teachers try to reach out to their students by using the current lingo, buzz phrases, or references to popular entertainment. Most instructors have to be very careful with this strategy because youthful vernacular changes constantly. Therefore, a teacher may be trying to show his respect for the students by using their latest words, but it may backfire if the words are out of date or come across as being forced. The teacher can talk to the students where they are, but they have to remember that they are not in a phase where they can expect to stay up to date with the current language.
Boundaries
While mutual respect can be a definitive goal for the classroom, teachers must remember that they have set certain standards that must be followed. Discipline can be uncomfortable, but it is necessary in order to convey that mutual respect is a two-way street. As mentioned, sometimes teachers talk a "good game" but can't follow through when a student disrupts the classroom. Therefore, the teacher must be ready to enforce their own policies so that the general respect of the classroom can be maintained for all students involved.
Balance
Finally, mutual respect is about the teacher showing the student that they care about their success. They do this by supporting them through whatever life situation is currently going on. However, they also do this by challenging the student and conveying to them that succeeding in life is about being willing to work hard. The teacher who can balance aspects of challenge and support while being genuine in their delivery will find that mutual respect may indeed occur between the instructor and the students.