Text messaging, the new way of global communication in relationships, deserves the same value of respect as any other form of communication. There are many do's and don'ts of texting within relationships. Here are ten examples, as we begin with the obvious.
Here are the do's and don'ts of texting in relationships:
Be Honest, Not Dishonest - - Sharing your feelings can only make a relationship stronger, for lying can only break trust and possibly a heart. Be honest about the words you use or you may cross the boundaries of a healthy relationship. Do not type what you do not know, simple as that.
Be Calm, Not Stirred - - Being calm while texting is important, whether it's for a date, a friend or a loved one. Being calm helps you from texting anything that you may regret. Those not calm can make another feel uncomfortable, as it may come back to haunt you in the end. Thinking before texting, or even speaking, is a great way to possibly avoid any non-calm words coming from your direction.
Believe in Trust, Not Trust in Disbelief - - Try not to question a text message that could be accurate. False accusations can lead to negativity, even on text messaging. Always remember that words that you text can be taken more ways than one. You have nothing to lose when being honest, than you would have by sharing false belief.
Give Them Space, Not Suffication - - Giving space to a relationship is a must in order for it to grow in a healthy spectrum. The same applies to text messaging, literally. Do not blow up their text message board with message after message, give them space. If you offer space, the other most likely will reciprocate. An equal balance of space, or compatible with, can offer a healthier relationship, even when text messaging.
Catch the Message Before You Miss It - - It is always smart to keep up with the latest text message from someone special. Catch the latest instead of waiting too long. It could mean everything to your relationship, especially when the other person in the relationship would rather have someone assume that you are putting them off or ignoring them.
Have Empathy, Not A Selfish Side - - During times of need, having empathy is healthy. If you text within a relationship, see how the other is doing, especially when times are tough for them. Caring about someone is a genuine act of human kindness and should come naturally for those in a relationship, with or without texting.
Proofread Versus 2nd Grade Spelling - - Before you hit "send", make sure the words are what you wish them to be. Send what you mean and mean what you send is key on this measure. Do not send a text message with more holes than swiss cheese, check it first before sending your thoughts off. Again, this goes back to thinking before sending.
What to expect, what not to exploit and knowing the language is important!
Expectations - - Giving and taking should be an equal balance. However, when a person gives a text message, they should not expect to receive each and every time. There is a thin line between expecting way too much and obsession, never forget. One has to consider that there are those times when a person is with family, a boss, or within an excusable moment, and that the other may be too busy to reciprocate your text message. So go into this relationship with little or no expectations, as it should be, whether or not you use the texting as a form of communication.
Explicit Text Messaging - - Explicit text messaging should never occur, since you could have pillow talk on the phone or in person instead. The problem with explicit text messaging is that it contributes to 10% of all failed relationships, as explicit text messaging can be misread as sexual harassing text messaging. Do not send explicit text messaging, save it for the phone or in person.
Language of Technology - - The Internet gives us abbreviations to accompany a shorter sentence, such as "LOL" (meaning laugh out loud) and "BRB" (meaning be right back). This is a personal issue that should be dealt with depending upon the relationship. If your relationship, on both ends, have used Internet language as a way to communicate before, it could be included within text messaging as well. But if the other person within your relationship has no idea about Internet language, in short form, then it is best to keep the words at full when text messaging.
Text messaging is a form of communication and can be used when it comes to relationships. Follow these do's and don'ts of texting in relationships and your relationship just may have a better texting survival rate.