Breakups are hard enough, but bad breakups can really take a toll on both a person's emotional and physical psyche. The raw emotions that accompany a bad breakup wreak havoc on a person's life and the routine ups and downs become the norm.

With a horrible breakup it often seems as if there are more bad times than good, and this is a barrier which makes it really difficult to move on. While it is true there are some relationships that are easier to move on than others, those grueling breakups often make it feel as if the future is bleak with no hope.

Time does truly heal all wounds, but the key to successfully finding the way to move on depends on determining just how to find the way to let go of someone you once loved so passionately.

*Find Understanding

One of the first steps should be to stop and look deep within yourself and be honest why the relationship came to an end. If you are truthful and realistic with yourself, you should be able to find a few good reasons why the breakup occurred.

Even if you don't agree with the breakup, by doing some self-reflection and examining the reasons why the split occurred, you should at least be able to understand why it occurred. This isn't going to make moving on any easier, but realistic understanding is the first step in being able to accept your new future without your ex.

*Acceptance

After an understanding is reached, it is important to find a way to accept the relationship is over. It's difficult to move on after a bad breakup because there are usually strong emotions that are attached to your ex and the past relationship you shared. Acceptance is one of the hardest parts of being able to move on.

*Dealing with Grief

With acceptance comes a period of grieving. It's OK to do this, let out those emotions and cry it out. This is entirely natural if you feel the need to shed a few or many tears. This is usually a necessary reaction for most people who experience a bad breakup. There is no wrong or right way to grieve and the timeframe dedicated to grieving is going to vary for each individual.

People who have an unusually hard time moving on are those who become completely absorbed in the past and put too much effort into reliving the lost relationship. When this happens there is a possibility of neglecting life and losing sight of the fact that time does continue to move forward even if you want it to stop.

*Begin to Heal

In order to get past the 'what ifs' and reflection of a life that is now over, a

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