by E.A. Paul

Created on: June 18, 2009

Low self esteem can definitely make the dating experience an unpleasant one. It's more about the manifestation of negative emotions that usually make it a rough go when someone with low self esteem is on a date. For instance, low self esteem can manifest as anger, anxiety, depression, uncertainty, and indecision. When some of these negative qualities surface on a date, it can have overwhelming negative consequences.

Many people cover up their low self esteem with anger. It's usually an unconscious and automatic action to do this. If the person with low self esteem displays anger toward their date, they will find that their date would be turned off by their actions. It could even go as far as to be perceived as threatening. They don't even necessarily need to direct their anger toward their date. All they need to do is to have a burst of unexpected anger, and they might as well say good-by to their date. The date will probably be asked to be taken home, or they might leave by their own choice.

Going on a date is certainly anxiety provoking for almost everyone. But for the person with low self esteem, the anxiety can be very overwhelming. This is especially true if they are trying to impress their date, or they want their date to like them. Their low self esteem tells them they're not good enough. Their insecurity surfaces at the wrong time and they start to feel anxious. The anxiety may overwhelm them to the point that they are unable to function in a normal way. This can have a huge negative impact on the dating experience for both people.

People with low self esteem tend to be a bit on the depressive side. That person on a date will tend to look at almost everything in a sad and uninspired way. They may just have a sad look on their face, or may make comments that tend to be on the negative side. Whatever the situation, people with low self esteem may be just a bit more negative then what is excepted. The dating situation will quickly become a negative experience for both partners.

Low self esteem tends to erode away at the certainty of one's actions. They don't think very highly of themselves, so they tend to be uncertain if they are saying or doing the right thing. They may tend to apologize way too much for things they say or do. This may appear to their date that they are unstable, or at the least they will be very irritating. This, of course, makes for a very unpleasant experience for both them and the date.

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