by Felicia Arnold

Created on: June 18, 2009   Last Updated: July 09, 2009

Ask yourself this important question...If you don't think you are worthy of a loving partner, why would anyone want YOU for a loving partner? There is something rather hurtful, and almost rude in asking you this question, however, it is an incredibly important question because your response to it is vital for you to better understand yourself.

When your self esteem is low you tend to not take very good care of yourself. This becomes apparent in many ways. Sometimes you are not aware of your actions. Check out these examples.

When you leave the house to go to work/school you do not pay attention to your attire. Your clothes do not fit well, and they are not styled to benefit your shape.

Ladies, did you do your hair nicely today? Are you wearing make up which flatters your face? When you enter a room, do you walk in with confidence and charm. Or, conversely, do you slip into a room as quickly and quietly as possible so as to not draw any attention to yourself?

Gentlemen, is your hair groomed nicely? Is it stylish? Did you shave and clean up well? What are you wearing today? Are you dressed in an attractive outfit which fits you well? Do you have good posture? When you enter a room do you walk in with pride or do you enter the room with your head hanging down?

If your self esteem is so low, that you have said yes to the previous questions then you need to stop for a minute and realize that if you are going to attract anyone at all, it would probably be someone as miserable and unhappy as the person you projected to be yourself. Think about it, why would a person with a healthy self image and pleasant manner and appearance want to spent time with someone who thinks badly about themselves.

Something else for you to consider...if you do not value yourself and have negative values about others you will not attract a partner with a strong positive self esteem. Someone with a positive self esteem knows that life is not perfect, however, that person believes in himself/herself. With that positive belief in themselves they feel empowered to handle the challenges life throws at them. They are strong and proactive and not negative with a weak sense of power.

Recognizing that you have a low self esteem does not mean that you can never find a charming partner. If you are honest with yourself, you can change the root of your low esteem and with some effort find a partner who will be capable of finding that healthy person deep inside of you.

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