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CO-dependence is becoming an epidemic in our current a society among the youth of this generation. Teenagers all around the world are looking for acceptance, and are formulating relationships based upon the temporary comfort they can receive from these relationships. The bigger problem is that the majority of these young people do not have the self value to successfully navigate life on their own without constant validation from a significant other. Certainly, complements and praise are valuable commodities, however when validation becomes an obsession or an addiction, unhealthy and sometimes abusive relationships can develop very quickly.

It is unfortunate, that many youths today, struggle with the need for acceptance so much that they put themselves in dangerous situations. These situations are dangerous because personal power is given away through relationships that may not be in the greater good of the individuals involved. Furthermore, should those relationships be terminated for any reason, the vast majority of the breakup victims are having greater difficulty then ever before going back into society. The larger problem here is that we are not teaching the youths of this generation that it is Okay to be different. That it is Okay not to be the most popular person in their social circle. As long as we perpetrate the lie that popularity automatically equates to success we will continue to have a wide variety of individuals that are staying in codependent relationships because of the image that it portrays to the rest of the world around them.

Codependency patterns take place mostly because the individuals involved have not accepted themselves as unique and special individuals. Instead, they rely on other people to make them feel valuable, because their self-esteem is not sufficient to sustain life without the relationship. These individuals give away their personal power in exchange for something that feels like Love. The problem is that, these relationships have many conditions under which they will continue. True love is unconditional acceptance, therefore true love cannot exist within a codependent relationship because there are always conditions attached. The person that is in a codependent relationship may not even realize that they are being controlled. The feelings of guilt and the fear associated with not behaving properly, become a pattern and before they know it the victims personality has completely changed.
Dependency is it learned behavioral pattern that is repetitive in nature. Without being acknowledged this pattern can continue for years through countless relationships.

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