by Carolyn Joslin

Created on: June 16, 2009

Unfortunately, children do not come with handbooks, and they do not have those cool pop-up timers like turkeys and some large roasts to tell you when they're "done" with a stage. What they do have is a complex series of actions and words that can give a parent mixed cues about whether or not their child is ready for something new. In between all of these cues, there are some clear indicators of a child's readiness to potty train.

The first of these indicators is a recognition of bodily functions. Does your child tend to "hide" or go off somewhere alone when having a bowel movement? Does your child shudder or pause his or her play when urinating? These are clear indications that your child is starting to recognize that something is happening. When children become aware of what is going on with their body, even if they don't have the words to express it, it becomes a good time to give them the words and help them understand what is going on. At this point, teach them the words you want them to use. Start looking a books and talking about what potty is and what's so great about being potty trained. Examples of the benefits (for some of us who don't think of them right away) include the fact of not having to sit in a wet/cold diaper, being able to wear light-weight underwear that is easier to get on and off, and the cool colors and designs on "big kid" panties.

Another indicator is if your child is able to stay dry for increasing periods of time. Does your child remain dry for roughly 30 minutes after a new diaper is put on? Does your child wake up from naps dry or nearly dry and then urinate upon waking? Does your child urinate shortly after waking up in the morning? These are all indications that your child is learning bowel and bladder control and is ready to start potty training. When you see this happening, point it out. Help your child learn the connection between the feeling of a full bladder, the relief / feeling of actually urinating, and the after-effect of a wet diaper. Young children can not sequence events independently. They learn from their parents, and so it is very important to help your child recognize the "before", "during", and "after" of urinating.

Finally, is your child showing an interest? Does your child suddenly notice "big kid" or adult underwear? Does your child want to see what you're doing when you go into the bathroom? Does your child (when in a bathroom with you) comment or notice when you urinate? These

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