by Lillyswawa

Created on: June 16, 2009   Last Updated: June 20, 2009

Rejection is the primary cause of insecurity. We 'feel the way we do' (insecure) because someone whose opinion we deem as important has exhibited behavior toward us which has been dismissive, callous, or downright mean! Perhaps, this behavior has merely been perceived as such by us, still the damage has been done and there you have it!

It begins in the womb. A mother does not not want the child and the infant 'feels' it.

A toddler only wants to be held, hugged, and told they are Daddy's pretty girl or, Mommy's big boy. The parent is too busy...too distracted with the affairs of the day...or, worse... they simply despise their own precious flesh and blood. The small one meekly requests a 'sippy' cup of juice and Mother harshly rebukes them, "You've had ENOUGH to drink already!" The child is in the way. Maybe the baby girl is NOT that pretty... the tiny boy is just TOO tiny! At any rate, the damage is irreparable. Or, it seems. Life doles out it's unfair candy in, what seems to be at times, enormous tonnage.

Seeds of hurt are sown deep in childhood. But adults, too, receive a goodly share. Teenage years are never an easy time of life, no matter how popular, pretty or, gifted a young person might be. For the less fortunate ones, these years can be a living nightmare of ridicule and rejection. Cruel teasing, insensitive pranks, even abusive, crass language to which no precious young woman's soul should ever have to be exposed!

Those who know firsthand of what I speak, you need only to be made aware of one thing: "YOU ARE VALUABLE!"

No one on the planet has been created by God with any more value nor, is any more loved and adored by Him than you are! Boyfriends may have berated - even hit you. Girlfriends may have lied and cheated on you, causing you to wonder, "Is it me? Is it something I did to deserve this hideous treatment? Am I damaged goods that nobody could ever love? Do I even have anything in myself worth loving?" STOP RIGHT THERE!

If you are feeling insecure whenever you are with a friend, ask yourself: "How does this 'friend' cause me to feel about myself whenever I am with them?" Is this individual continually demeaning you by way of their words or, tone of voice? When you leave their company, do you feel just like you've been mashed in the scull with a sledge hammer or, do you genuinely look forward to getting together with them again soon?

First, while you cannot rely entirely on others to be the mirror for your positive self-image, you should

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