With divorce rates on the rise, we are seeing an influx of families that are being twisted apart and the children of these families are the real victims. They are often paying the ultimate price for their parents' decisions because many are essentially losing one parent and it is, more often than not, the father. Unfortunately, many men seem to have either forgotten, or never learned, the important role that they play in the lives of their children. They may be feeling like they aren't really needed, but this is far from the truth. Even if a stepfather comes into the picture, there is still only one real dad for each child and no child should be robbed of that relationship.

There are too many children, though, who are being robbed of that everyday. They are living their whole lives feeling like they weren't good enough for their own dad to stick around and be there for them. They are becoming adults who don't know many of the things that dads once taught. They are often being raised in difficult financial situations that leaves the one parent they have left exhausted and stressed, unable to give them all that they wish they could. Fathers, you are more important than you realize in the lives of your children and it is time to stand up and take more responsibility than you may have been up to now. The following areas are where you are needed. No one else can take your place. It is up to you and you alone.

*Roots

Every child has the right to know their roots when it is possible. Children who are raised not knowing where they came from will feel an emptiness inside where their history should be. When a biological father is irresponsible, it often extends to his relatives as well, thus robbing the child of the many grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins that they would normally enjoy great relationships with. Without roots, many children struggle with self-esteem and identity issues well into adulthood, if not for life.

*Financial Betterment

Even if the child's mother is capable of providing for the child's needs, fathers should be responsible for the financial well-being of their children. It is not for the mother's benefit, but for the child's. The child deserves the benefit of both parents' financial means. Even if their basic needs are met by only one, there should be money set aside for the future, such as a college fund. Childhood poverty has a direct correlation to future troubles, such as crime, teen pregnancy, and adult poverty. Although it is not so in every case, it certainly increases the odds.

*Emotional bond

Children need the emotional bond with both of their parents that is essential for a true sense of well-being. When this is missing, it is painful to the child, even if they don't understand where the pain is coming from. This can cause many problems, including acting out in one way or another.

*Lessons and examples

Fathers should provide an example to their children. They should be leaders and teach lessons through their words and their actions. Although both genders have the capability of learning the nature of the other, women are inherently nurturers while men are strong in the art of loving discipline. Children need both of these aspects of parenting in order to grow into successful and healthy individuals.

Fathers, you are important. When you have a child, it is your responsibility to do all that you can to ensure their happiness and wholeness as people. Step up to the plate and you will be amazed at the rewards that fatherhood really has to offer.

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