by Crystal Tieszen

Created on: June 16, 2009   Last Updated: June 22, 2009

There are those grey area relationships. WOMEN HATE THESE. At least most of us do.

Most women think of this as the area that they hope to lead down the road,
that all women want to end up in. We all know what it is, but none of us would openly admit it, at least not right away.

Unfortunately it is something that is bread into us, the idea of being a wife and having a home to build a life in, with or without children.

Spending your life with someone forever. Let's be honest most girls grow up on Disney films which always have some kind of amazing man that comes in and saves the day, and all women are looking for this ultimately, it is in our nature.

So this being in our nature you can't help but to wonder why we continually fall into these relationships with the inevitable grey areas. The well were friends but saying were just friends sounds diminishing to what we mean to each other. It seems off putting somehow. Demeaning. This is when you are faced with looking inward to yourself. "I know that I am not getting any younger, I know that I want to find someone to be with, why can't he just be with me."

This year, a lot happened it my life. I think the worse thing about the grey area relationships is that we don't honestly realize those are the relationships that we get pulled into. I once heard women repeatedly date the same type of men, it's true. I have spent the better part of a decade from one grey relationship to the next and spent years on each of them. To end up sitting here, to let all of you know the conclusion I have come to, in hopes that you may see this reality yourself.

The world really is black and white and there is no grey area. If you are staying in this area YOU, and you alone are putting yourself there. Who knows what the reason may be, who knows what is the reality. In my case, I think it is simply safe. Being hurt going through that brokenness is not an easy thing to deal with. It is called heartbreak for a reason. It hurts, and it is not easy to get over or let go. So being in those grey areas allows you to keep your options open knowing along the way you have someone to fall back on.

Realizing this leaves you one of two choices,
"Too late two choices to stay or to leave"-Sara Barellies Between the lines

Stay: Staying in that grey place hurts. Sometimes you have to let go of things that hurt because you are technically not together, but you love the person and care for them so much that it would hurt more to lose them entirely.

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