by Kimberly Bunch

Created on: June 15, 2009   Last Updated: June 19, 2009

Babies only know that once you leave the room you are gone. They don't have the rational understanding that you are just in the next room. Once your loving presence walks out of the room, to that child you are gone for good. They don't understand that you are near by to hear their cries. Their brain development only understands that they are alone. From their crib they will cry out in hunger, to be changed or for your loving comfort. The hardest part for them to understand is being in a room alone or when you leave them that you will come right back.

They don't have the developmental understanding or concept of: Mom is in the next room or mom will be right back. Therefore, it makes leaving them with other people, or in their crib alone a frightening experience for them, more times than not.

It is different to be left with people than to be left alone in a room by their selves. Small children that don't fees secure carry around with them their insecurities that often result in a clinging nature. Such as wanting to hold on to something / an object for dear life, or sucking their thumb until its raw. Those are extreme causes but are only a step away from the toddler that doesn't want to part with his/ her blanky dolly or teddy bear... not even for a second. It is pretty much the same thing from levels of severe to moderately severe insecurity issues.

If you find that your baby, toddler, or young child cries more often than usual while in their room because they are alone in there, and it is obvious to you that they are afraid. That their fear is causing obvious insecurity issues to develop and a clinging behavior to people or objects to develop more so than the normal standard characteristics of a child at that age than try moving their crib into your room.

Up to age of four sleeping in mommies room will have your child feeling more secure, they won't be clinging to objects for securities, and they will sleep better, and sounder through the night knowing that they are in the same loving atmosphere as mommy. If they wake in the night you are only one step away from patting them on their back and reassuring them that everything is okay.

If putting the child in your room doesn't workout for you or is against your thoughts on it. Then maybe in the other children(s) room just until they are mature enough and able enough to understand the concept of knowing that you are close at hand and that you are just in the next room. If you don't have any other children

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