by Jennifer Eblin

Created on: June 12, 2009

Sex appeal is that amazing thing that some people have. It can bring another person to their knees and make them feel weak just when they see that person. It's something that you can't fake; you either have sex appeal or you don't have sex appeal. All of these people have different things in common. It's like the old idea that beauty is in the eye of the beholder because sex appeal is also in the eye of the beholder.

Take for example the hot blonde who walks into the bar. Her shirt is cut low enough to reveal half her enhanced chest, while her low slung miniskirt shows off her back tattoo and also shows off far too much leg. Most of us would take one look at her outfit and chemically dyed blonde hair and roll our eyes. The guys in the room though will probably take one look, then a second look and then as many looks as they can get away with after that. Others might find her a turn off, but some will go crazy when they see her.

Sex appeal is a very mysterious thing because it varies so much from person to person. A friend of mine dated a girl with the classic librarian look. She always wore glasses, long sleeved shirts and almost always had her hair up in a bun. He thought she was the sexiest person in the world and that she had major sex appeal. The rest of us didn't see it, but he saw it constantly.

My own friends like to tease me because I don't have a particular type when it comes to the opposite sex. I've dated older guys, younger guys, taller guys, shorter guys, guys with long hair, guys with short hair, super skinny guys, bigger guys and everyone in between. There was something about each guy that I found sexy, be it their intelligence, their personality or their looks.

You can find sex appeal all over the world, but the real key to sex appeal is confidence. If you line up all the people others view as having sex appeal, you'll notice that each one of them has a lot of confidence. Confidence gives you something that other people don't have. It makes you stand a little taller, walk a little better and have that special glint in your eye.

When you're confident, you carry yourself better and you get more attention. It doesn't even matter what you're wearing because others are going to notice you. Even if you're in sweatpants with messy hair, people are going to notice you. You can't fake sex appeal, but if you have confidence, you're on your way to gaining that special type of appeal.

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