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Most people have been there...that first date crossroads where you feel the chemistry and have to decide whether or not you're going to act on it and have sex. This decision can be made quite a bit more difficult if your hormones have already gotten involved, which they probably have, if you are ready to even consider going "all the way". In order to make a decision that you will be much less likely to regret the next day, you need to somehow put a damper on those raging hormones and enable your brain to take over for a moment. There are some very important things that you should consider before you make a choice that will change the nature of your relationship forever.

*Do you intend to see this person again, and vice versa? If you are looking for more than a one night stand, sex on the first date is not usually the way to start off. This can leave a strange feeling between the two of you and there may be regrets on one side or the other. This is not a good way to start a relationship. Once physical consumation is accomplished, the whole relationship changes. If there was never one really established, it is much more difficult once you have sex.

*Are you willing to lose respect for yourself and any respect the other person will have for you? This is almost always the result of sex on the first date.

*Have you considered your own personal safety? This person is really a stranger to you! Especially if you are a woman, there could be unimagined dangers awaiting you if you choose to go off and be alone with your date.

*Do you have protection available? Birth control pills aren't going to be good enough. Although they prevent pregnancy, your bigger concern is contracting a life-threatening or irreversible STD. If this person is willing to sleep with you on the first date, you have no way of knowing how many other people he or she has been with under similar circumstances.

*Have you been drinking? In the first place, drunk sex is usually not the best sex. You may not even remember it clearly the next day. You probably aren't in the greatest condition to be making good decisions. Your best bet is to avoid consuming excessive alcohol on a first date.

Engaging in sex on the first date is not a good idea for several reasons, as you probably see. You should get to know a person and build a relationship before you throw sex into the mix. It changes everything and if you have no foundation before you have it, you may never be able to go back and build one. Once you have sex with someone, there is no going back so really take the time to consider the decision rather than just jumping into it with no thought.

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